On the forty-second page of “It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now: How to Create Your Second Life at Any Age” author Barbara Sher wrote (some emphasis added):
Another glimpse into your future
All right, I'd like to ask you to do something tricky.
Fantasize your life without any narcissistic desperation at all. It's almost impossible to do for more than the briefest moment, but you can get an idea if you imagine that you don't have the slightest interest in being anybody's favorite or any kind of star. See if you can catch a glimpse of how that would feel. Then ask yourself these questions.
- What do you think you'd have done differently in your life if you'd always felt that way?
- What would you do differently now?
- What would you stop doing?
Give it some thought for a few minutes.
Can you see how different your life would be? Well, that's what you can expect in your future.
But first, you need a little deprogramming.